There are so many kind of habits, and some are much deeper than others. I wont be talking about heavy topics here. Mostly about my experience with health.
I always have this feeling of guilt, disappointment and self hatred, that eats away at me whenever I fall of the wagon with my eating and working out. I constantly think about what is wrong with me. Why do I always do this to myself? Why is it so hard for me to stick with something?
Now, I know I’m not the only one that struggles with staying on track all time. But I don’t know if everyone completely blamed themselves for not sticking with it, like I did.
When I think of habits, I think of small things like biting my nails, or cursing every time I stub my toe. I never thought of habits as a bigger picture. Now some people might be like, duh. Everything you do is a habit. What’s your point?
It wasn’t until recently that I realized, when I fall off the track, nothing is actually wrong with me. Sticking to a plan is hard, and changing what your normally do is hard. Because it has become a habit! Me reaching for heavy, greasy, fast food when I’m upset is just a habit. After a long day, when I go to stuff my face with sweets, it’s a habit. These are things that I have just been doing for so long, it is a natural reaction when I am stressed, sad, upset or angry. The same thing goes for when I have that sweet treat, or 20, I completely give up and don’t see a point in it anymore.
So when I slip and give up, its because I’m so used to just thinking “well I screwed up my diet today, might as well start over Monday.” Then Monday comes, and I’ve ate all the bad things, and think, why start now. Lets just start next month. That is my go to thoughts what I have a small slip up. When now I need to change thoughts from negative and giving up to “okay, I had a slip today. Tomorrow is a new day to get back on track and do better.” It is just me being on auto pilot since it is the only things familiar to me.
Habits Are Hard To Break
The rule of thumb is that it takes about 21 days to break a habit, and the best way to do it is to replace it what the positive habit you want. So for me, instead of heading for sweets, I should probably go for a glass of water, or maybe even some fruit if it is just stuck on my mine. Heck I might even just start chewing gum to replace all the snacking I want to do.
There is also a rule of thumb that it takes about 66 days to form a new habit. So for working out, I need to stick to, and push through for about 66 days to build a new routine that includes time for myself to workout. And with two little kids, a husband that is never really home, and a whole house to run by myself, fitting in time for myself is the last thing on my mind. Again, my brain going on auto pilot.
No Magic Number
Though, you noticed I said ABOUT 21 days to break a habit, and 66 day to form a new one. There is no magic number. 21 days in to no soda, you may still want it a little bit. And that is okay, but having a number to look forward to makes things easier to look it. If you made it to 21 days, look at how far you’ve came! Take another 21 days, now you made it to 42 days! You showed yourself you have the will power, and I doubt you want that soda now!
The same things goes for the 66 day to form a new habit. 66 days in, and you might find it a little hard to carve out that time for your work out. Life is hard, and messy sometimes, but again, it makes it easier to see a number and be able to count down to it. By 66 days, you would have spend 66 days putting the time and effort in! That is amazing! And by 66 days, I bet you are starting to feel better, and you might even be able to see the changing. THAT is what you will see, and will make you keep going.
You will still have to continue everyday to work at what you want. To reach you goals, and you will be so happy you did. Take it one day at a time. 21 days at a time. 66 days at a time. Then do it again.
What habits are you trying to break, and what new habits are you trying to incorporate in you life? Share it below in the comments!